Sextoking to women
(Many of us won't betray ignorance but will say things like , then Google the technique later.) In this way, our talk functions like a Tupperware party: A leader spells out tips for her crew, and the pointers trickle into the homes of many. If, however, we try on you something that's obviously newly acquired, and we grimace as if we were assembling an Ikea armoire from 18 pages of diagrams, you should feel free to gently show us how to do it better.
Or in some situations just get us off the hook and into the next activity.
If you've got a new skill, by all means, break it out.
But do so with respect for the mood, and for her reaction; if it's not working, let it go.
And while one can't claim to know for sure why people get off on the things they do, here are some reasons a woman might prefer to giving over receiving: If you find yourself in a situation where your partner conspicuously gives and refuses to receive, you might try asking her why.
Talking about such issues can strengthen a relationship, opening partners up to each other more and more (pun sort of intended), and creating new levels of trust and intimacy.
But a skill or a tool without a heart behind it is worth nothing.
In all honesty, we talk more about a guy's general, soulful presence in the office than we do about how fast and accurately he creates a spreadsheet.
When we compare notes with our girlfriends about adventures in the wilderness, we're also leaving footprints of why we feel, what we think, and how we dream.
skills, it's true, there's the occasional superhero who lifts cars with a finger and flies over tall buildings (or however that translates sexually).