How to keep him dating and not have sex
Picture this (adopts Sophia from Golden Girls voice): You’re attracted to someone.
You think they’re funny, clever, witty, they embody all of the physical qualities that you like, and seem to share a few of your common interests and possess a similar outlook.
After a date or few, you sleep together and feel like there’s an amazing ‘connection’.
Over the coming weeks and months you notice a pattern – after loads of calls/texts/emails and off the chains sex initially, it’s slipped into a territory where you don’t really know where you stand. One night, lying there in the afterglow of another good ‘seeing to’, you tentatively ask what the score is, or mention a forthcoming event that you’d like them to come to with you.
Let’s just go with the flow.” You suddenly feel exposed and vulnerable. As I type these words, more than a few people out there are having sex with someone who they have more than a casual interest in, who is not interested in a relationship or isn’t even that interested in them.
Great chemistry is hard to come by, so when you meet a guy you click with, all you can think about is having sex with him.
Problem number one: Once you give up the goods, you lose the upper hand in the dating power dynamics.
While some are upfront, others don’t say anything until they really have to, which is normally around the time when you’re wanting things to progress or looking for some clarification.
They might kid themselves and insist that they initially genuinely wanted a relationship, but at some point, they changed their mind and they didn’t give you a heads up, removing the opportunity for you to decide what you do or don’t want to participate in.It’s not cute, it’s not cool, and it’s actually disrespectful, but it is all the more reason why you shouldn’t use sexual involvement as a barometer for the relationship you want or what you feel someone’s feelings are.