Dating your husband during separation
We have decided to end our relationship and I am not sure if we are separated or not.Also what other issues may arise with him not being in the country?We are not rushing to get a divorce because our separation is amicable; there are no arguments about the kids, and because of the expense and health insurance issues.Our theory is that if either of us wants to get married again someday, we'll get a divorce then. Brette's Answer: A lot of people who cannot afford a divorce choose to do this. You will still have financial liability for each other's debts which could be a problem.Before you can move on to a new relationship, you need to let go of the old one. Just let it run its natural course and do plenty to nurture yourself as you move forward. On the other hand, if you’re finding reasons to let things drag on, it could be that you’re finding excuses to hold back. If you’re on the rebound, you’re more likely to make bad decisions or get into relationships for all the wrong reasons.It’s normal to feel lonely and vulnerable after a divorce, but that isn’t a reason to rush into a new relationship. If you’re just looking for someone to fill the gap left by your ex, you won’t make the best choices for yourself.Unfortunately, not all states recognize a legal separation.
You might not want to talk to your ex about your current dating plans, but if you’re not divorced yet it’s the most honest thing to do. Factor in a little pamper time or even a weekend break here and there to give yourself time to heal. If you’re still hoping to get back together with your partner, or still dealing with a lot of sadness and bitterness surrounding the separation, you’re not ready yet. It’s a huge step, and it’s only natural to feel some hesitation.On the other hand, you’re still legally married and some ties are still there.